I recently ran across an article written by Joe Holleman on StlToday.com . I thought that it would be a good topic to write on. Now let me say first off that I am a happy married man of 34 years. Still reading the article brought benefit memories of younger years. It is amazing how little has changed even in our fast paced society of today. When I was younger, I remember how exciting it was to go through the dating process. It was absorbing to my ego and manhood to be successful in the art of “wooing.” I imagine that I am getting a few chuckles at this point. Still, what was true then is basically the same now.
To gather out what women like, you have to ask them. Let’s face it guys, to be successful, you have to understand what females like and don’t like. The worst thing that a guy can do is assume things. So here are those things that could sway your relationship one intention or the other.
First off, “How desperate is she? ” The older that she is should be a clue. You can usually tell by her appearance as well. There are some but, not many that would take the first guy that comes along. If you yourself are desperate, you got a chance. However, if you enjoy the hunt, here are some satisfactory ideas.
1. Too much cologne is a killer. It appears that you are trying to overkill her with it. Regardless of those AXE commercials, they aren’t going to flock to you or sweep you off your feet because of the smell.
2. The one line pickup. They might be cute, but give away your intentions. This is especially true in bars. A few drinks and your courage is so improved that you will try or say anything. Besides that, females aren’t unimaginative. Well, most aren’t. Your best bet is a friendly smile or nod and then a brief question or comment. Retain your comment relevant to both of you. Explore if the brief discussion leads you somewhere.
3. Be a reliable listener. Don’t dominate the conversation. Conversation on any topic should be a free flow back and forth between the two of you.
4. Don’t be outrageous or rude. No F words. No belching or passing gas. No guzzle your drink. No dreadful jokes.
5. No bad breath or body odor. Yes, I said don’t over do it on the colone. However, a quick turn off, is bad breath, yellow teeth, dandruff, and especially body odor. Try to keep body odor neutral or just a slight touch of colone.
6. Another turn off is too much hair. If you have a hairy body, keep it covered or cut.
7. Too much jewelry is a turnoff. Body piercings don’t help either.
8. Tobacco products. It use to be that smoking was a cool thing to do. No longer. The same is true if you like to chew tobacco. It is a major turn off. Don’t chew gum either. I once knew a guy who would smack his gum when he got nervous.
9. For some reason, women don’t like picky eaters. I guess they figure if you are picky about food, you will be picky about other things. Go Figure.
10. Don’t be cheap. Women don’t like guys that are too tight with their money.
11. Avoid conversations about, old flames or past experiences with the opposite sex. Don’t brag about your job accomplishments, cars, house,or salary. Stay away from blaming your ex girlfriend or past spouse. That stuff is ancient history. Don’t be a Felix Unger and constantly talk about how great your past relationship was either.
12. Don’t be a racist or homophobic. That will turn them off even faster. Keep your personal beliefs to yourself.
13. A quick temper is another turn off. Master your emotions.
Women like nice guys that are open, friendly, and easy to talk to. That is why it is important to be a good listener. You don’t have to be a fantastic dresser either. However, at the same time, you do want to leave a good impression. Many times a guy is placed in a situation where he doesn’t have time to change. If you are formally dressed in a relaxed atmosphere, loosen your tie, take off your jacket and slightly roll up your sleeves. If you are thrust into a formal situation without warning, just straighten up your clothes and act like you are confident enough to handle the situation.
Lastly, try to be yourself and confident in how you present yourself. If you fail in your attempt, move on. Life is too short.
Ladies is there anything that I left out?
